P.S. I Love You actress Hilary Swank wasn’t attracted to her boyfriend when she first met him.

The Oscar-winning actress, who is dating her former agent, John Campisi, admits that there was no initial “spark” between them because they were both dealing with heartache. Hilary—who was in the process of divorcing Chad Lowe when she started working with John in May 2006—explained to Hello!, “There was no spark. What’s interesting is, there was never anything. It wasn’t until we were well into the dissipation of our respective relationships. Going through something so difficult at the same time, we became very good friends. We became closer and closer. It was so unexpected. We both recognized that if we were going to take the relationship to the next step, we could no longer work together.”

Although the 35-year-old star says she has no plans to marry John, 41, in the near future, she hopes to start a family with him one day and enjoys spending time with his son Sam, from a previous relationship.

“Sam’s a sweetheart. I most definitely want children. It’s something I’d like to do someday. And when the timing is right I’ll hopefully know it.”